It is ok to modify expectations and goals. I need to remind myself of that. Things change. Change is acceptable. Even with things going well, there will still be ups and downs. Good days and bad days. We adjust. We move on. Move forward.
A return to football did happen the way we planned it. Coco let his anxiety build for weeks. Months maybe. The conditioning was too much. He anguished over saying anything. But he was secretly miserable. He let it consume him. Demi finally got him to face facts. He broke down while letting it gush out of him. Demi cried while listening. Fortunately, Coco had a therapy session that day. Timing is everything. Though neither said it, I feel like Coco was scared to tell me. Demi used kid gloves too. Honestly, I felt some anger. Some frustration. I felt like he was giving up on himself. But the relief could be seen on him. It was as clear as day. That made it the right decision.
However, we still wanted Coco active. We wanted him part of a team. Demi placed a call to Coach Calrissian. He knows Coco from School and from helping Coco through his tough times. He was a central part of his success last year. Coach Calrissian offered Coco a spot as a team manager. The team would work with Coco's schedule. Coco could work and attend practices and games. It sounded like a great middle ground.
Tonight is the home opener. Coco was fired up for it. I took him down an hour early to start helping out. He seemed happy. That is important. He needs to be happy about this. I truly think he is. So now the expectations are different. And that is ok.
No comments:
Post a Comment