Our offer on the new house was accepted. We had to jump through more than a couple of hoops. Personally, I think it had more to do with the seller's agent, than the seller's. I am fairly confident she wanted to stick it to us because we currently reside in Duxbury. South Shore rivalries are real.
It's game on now. We had to secure a second mortgage as part of this. Home buying is quite a process. This is our first time through the "normal process", so this is all new to us. The idea of a second mortgage is overwhelming, quite frankly. It is causing me a bit of anxiety. It is messing with my sleep for real. I have had several nights in a row of waking up around 2 am and not being able to go back to sleep. I am pretty sure that is the textbook definition of insomnia. This is supposed to be exciting. And it is. But the financial aspect can make my heart stop. The numbers are so large, they don't even seem real. This is not Monopoly. The money is not fake. I can't run the bank.
Maybe it is a control thing? Like people who have a fear of flying. I don't doubt that my own anxiety is a source of Coco's. Genetics are a funny thing. Not funny, ha ha. Funny, strange.
Friday, November 29, 2019
Monday, October 21, 2019
First Visit 2019
Our first trip to the University of South Carolina to visit Coco was a success. Great trip, even with the rain all day on Saturday. Friday was beautiful. The most perfect weather. It was sunny. It was cool enough to walk around without sweating, even wearing jeans.
Coco really enjoyed being our guide on a walking tour of campus. He tooks us to all the buildings in which he has a class. He walked us through the Horseshoe. I asked to go by the bookstore, of course. Coco guided us into Russell House, the Circle and the Theater. He was really eager to show us his college. He really seems happy there.
Game Day on Saturday was a noon kickoff. That made for interesting tailgating. Demi and I actually slept in. I had picked a hotel about a half mile walk to the stadium. I thought I was so smart, not having to deal with parking. What I failed to realize was that the South Carolina State Fair was going on. This was the last weekend of it. Friday was a bit of a circus with the amount of traffic in front of our hotel.
Demi and I had rolled into Columbia about lunch time. We were hungry. We hit a local BBQ joint. We had called on our drive and the room was not ready yet. After lunch, we figured we would give the room a shot. At least we would leave our bags. Four lanes of dead stop traffic was in front of the hotel. The gate to the Fair parking lots had just opened recently. Poor timing on our part. We used Waze to try and bypass traffic. We ended up on a dirt road, running parallel to train tracks. It felt like part Stand By Me and part Lost Boys. We ended up getting around traffic, sure, but then we had to make a left, across all four lands of stopped cars. Southern Hospitality helped us. They parted the Red Sea, to allow us access to the hotel parking lot. No way that happens in Massholia.
Demi and I walked to the game. It was misty. A sprinkle shower passed quickly. We checked out Cock-a-boose Alley & Gamecock Park. We hit the Jameison's tent. I thought it was a standard bar at first. We got two free drinks each, but all were of course, Jameison's based. No way Demi was going to like it, right? Wrong. She really got into the Jameison's and Ginger. It is now on the favorites list. The game was a bit rainy. It actually hailed for quite a bit. But we were prepared and managed to stay dry.
We did not see Coco that night. He and his boys napped after the game and the early AM tailgate. I get it. A college kid wants to hang with his buddies. We had breakfast in the morning. It seemed clear he had been out with said buddies that night. It was a really nice trip. Can't wait to go back.
Coco really enjoyed being our guide on a walking tour of campus. He tooks us to all the buildings in which he has a class. He walked us through the Horseshoe. I asked to go by the bookstore, of course. Coco guided us into Russell House, the Circle and the Theater. He was really eager to show us his college. He really seems happy there.
Game Day on Saturday was a noon kickoff. That made for interesting tailgating. Demi and I actually slept in. I had picked a hotel about a half mile walk to the stadium. I thought I was so smart, not having to deal with parking. What I failed to realize was that the South Carolina State Fair was going on. This was the last weekend of it. Friday was a bit of a circus with the amount of traffic in front of our hotel.
Demi and I had rolled into Columbia about lunch time. We were hungry. We hit a local BBQ joint. We had called on our drive and the room was not ready yet. After lunch, we figured we would give the room a shot. At least we would leave our bags. Four lanes of dead stop traffic was in front of the hotel. The gate to the Fair parking lots had just opened recently. Poor timing on our part. We used Waze to try and bypass traffic. We ended up on a dirt road, running parallel to train tracks. It felt like part Stand By Me and part Lost Boys. We ended up getting around traffic, sure, but then we had to make a left, across all four lands of stopped cars. Southern Hospitality helped us. They parted the Red Sea, to allow us access to the hotel parking lot. No way that happens in Massholia.
Demi and I walked to the game. It was misty. A sprinkle shower passed quickly. We checked out Cock-a-boose Alley & Gamecock Park. We hit the Jameison's tent. I thought it was a standard bar at first. We got two free drinks each, but all were of course, Jameison's based. No way Demi was going to like it, right? Wrong. She really got into the Jameison's and Ginger. It is now on the favorites list. The game was a bit rainy. It actually hailed for quite a bit. But we were prepared and managed to stay dry.
We did not see Coco that night. He and his boys napped after the game and the early AM tailgate. I get it. A college kid wants to hang with his buddies. We had breakfast in the morning. It seemed clear he had been out with said buddies that night. It was a really nice trip. Can't wait to go back.
Sunday, September 29, 2019
Auburn v Miss St 2019
Boys trip to visit Caz this year. I talked Rosie into a big time college football game a few months ago. Later on I had possession of an extra ticket. So I offered it to Rosie's son and Caz's best friend. Seemed a great way to get one of Caz's friends from home down to see him. They weren't going to do it on their own. I can't blame them. It's a long way. They are college kids. Typically, college kids don't have excess spending money.
This was the hottest it has ever been in Auburn, while I have been visiting. It was 97 degrees and close to 98% humidity. I was okay day one. Or at least I think I was. I felt it. But we did a lot of walking and I felt fine after. I hydrated all day. I though we might lose little Rosie but he hung in there. It was game day that got me. After parking the car and walking to Toomer's corner, we walked into the bookstore (J&M). After a while, I felt dizzy and nauseous. I got a huge bottle of water right away. I downed it methodically. I didn't guzzle it but I put it down with purpose. We jaunted over to the the stadium and bookstore. We went to a BBQ place back at Toomer's. In both place, I felt off. I didn't drink a drop of alcohol. I felt so bad, I couldn't eat. We are inside, so not in direct sunlight. Before we went into the game, I got a smoothie, just to get something into me. I kept drinking water.
In the 4th quarter, i put on my FitBit. My pulse was way high. It was 40 bpm higher than my normal resting heartrate. I didn't want to be the guy that ignored a warning sign and then had a health problem. I went to First Aid and started asking questions. They took my vitals. The gave me water. They wanted to give me an EKG but that was in the main facility on the first floor. I had to walk it (or ride in a wheelchair). I had to take it slow. They decided not to do an EKG but monitored my vials. They gave me more water and granola bar. At that point, all I could do was walk back to the car with Rosie.
We stopped for Rosie to grab a bite. I thought a shake was a good idea. I was wrong. I was up in the middle of the night in intestinal distress. I had to take the nuclear option of immodium. I did feel better in the AM though.
All in all it really was a good guys weekend. Auburn won big. The tailgate was still fun. Rosie and his son got to see a big time college football game. Caz got his buddy to visit. And his buddy was shown some real Southern Hospitality. Win, win.
This was the hottest it has ever been in Auburn, while I have been visiting. It was 97 degrees and close to 98% humidity. I was okay day one. Or at least I think I was. I felt it. But we did a lot of walking and I felt fine after. I hydrated all day. I though we might lose little Rosie but he hung in there. It was game day that got me. After parking the car and walking to Toomer's corner, we walked into the bookstore (J&M). After a while, I felt dizzy and nauseous. I got a huge bottle of water right away. I downed it methodically. I didn't guzzle it but I put it down with purpose. We jaunted over to the the stadium and bookstore. We went to a BBQ place back at Toomer's. In both place, I felt off. I didn't drink a drop of alcohol. I felt so bad, I couldn't eat. We are inside, so not in direct sunlight. Before we went into the game, I got a smoothie, just to get something into me. I kept drinking water.
In the 4th quarter, i put on my FitBit. My pulse was way high. It was 40 bpm higher than my normal resting heartrate. I didn't want to be the guy that ignored a warning sign and then had a health problem. I went to First Aid and started asking questions. They took my vitals. The gave me water. They wanted to give me an EKG but that was in the main facility on the first floor. I had to walk it (or ride in a wheelchair). I had to take it slow. They decided not to do an EKG but monitored my vials. They gave me more water and granola bar. At that point, all I could do was walk back to the car with Rosie.
We stopped for Rosie to grab a bite. I thought a shake was a good idea. I was wrong. I was up in the middle of the night in intestinal distress. I had to take the nuclear option of immodium. I did feel better in the AM though.
All in all it really was a good guys weekend. Auburn won big. The tailgate was still fun. Rosie and his son got to see a big time college football game. Caz got his buddy to visit. And his buddy was shown some real Southern Hospitality. Win, win.
Tuesday, September 24, 2019
Indecent Proposal
Ok. That was just sensationalism at its worst. We actually made a very fair offer for a new house. It is downsizing season. It’s the first step of a master life change plan. We want a smaller place. It will reduce the taxes. Personally, I could do without a yard to maintain. A small yard for cornhole and Gizmo is perfect. We can walk to the beach. But the house is protected. It’s not in a flood zone. It should also allow us to relocate to NC. NC would be closer to the boys. It would be closer to Demi’s family. We have the plan. And now we are starting to execute on it.
Sunday, September 15, 2019
Sunday Phone Home Day
Sunday is the day we talk to the boys. One uses Skype. One uses FaceTime. Either way, we get to see their faces. It really doesn’t have to be Sunday. The point is, once a week, you, the child, call home.
It’s funny. All these years after college, our friend Vorhees, calls his parents every Sunday. He uses a cellphone, but it is a standard phone call. He has called from the Lake. He has called from the beach. He has called from a bar. Wherever he is on Sunday, he calls home.
Years from now, it would be nice if the boys call home often. It would be nice if it is unprompted. I hope they want to call home. It’s easy to get caught up in life. It really is the though that counts.
It’s funny. All these years after college, our friend Vorhees, calls his parents every Sunday. He uses a cellphone, but it is a standard phone call. He has called from the Lake. He has called from the beach. He has called from a bar. Wherever he is on Sunday, he calls home.
Years from now, it would be nice if the boys call home often. It would be nice if it is unprompted. I hope they want to call home. It’s easy to get caught up in life. It really is the though that counts.
Sunday, September 8, 2019
College Visits
Coco got his first visitor at U of South Carolina. Uncle Lex had some work in Charlotte, so he drove down to stay the night. I am really happy he did.
Those two had a good time. Coco took around campus. He showed Uncle Lex the Horseshoe, his classroom buildings, the library, and Russell House. Then they went to dinner at the Southern Belly BBQ. Of course they dialed up the Wookie. What else could you order besides double pork and double bacon? It’s really cool another family member got to see campus. My brother got a lot if information out of Coco. It confirmed our guess that Coco is loving Gamecock life. Spurs up!
Those two had a good time. Coco took around campus. He showed Uncle Lex the Horseshoe, his classroom buildings, the library, and Russell House. Then they went to dinner at the Southern Belly BBQ. Of course they dialed up the Wookie. What else could you order besides double pork and double bacon? It’s really cool another family member got to see campus. My brother got a lot if information out of Coco. It confirmed our guess that Coco is loving Gamecock life. Spurs up!
Tuesday, August 20, 2019
Move-In Day 2019
It's go time! Move-In Day (2 of 2) for the University of South Carolina. It would have really been nice to have the first move-in day. At least Coco drew the first time-slot of the day. "First one to the park.....first one to leave."
Overall, I would say it was a good move-in experience. It is still organized chaos though. The volun-tolds were there. There was not a clear leader. They didn't seem to have been give clear and consistent instructions. Coco's dorm was not cart friendly. Good news is that we were provided a cart and two volunteers to help move. Bad news is the cart was a cardboard box on an unattached set of wheels. On uneven ground, that cart design is poor.
The RM was extremely nice and very helpful. Bonus points = he is a Red Sox fan. Coco even got his bed elevated while we were there. UofSC didn't want students or parents messing with the bed frames. I wish Auburn had felt that way. Coco had his priorities. Get the smart TV up and running, then XBOX One. I will say, Demi did far less nesting than she did in Caz's room. That meant we were able to make our third Target run a lot earlier.
Coco was anxious. But all in all, I think he held it together. He was nervous about this book order. We all walked to the bookstore. I will say, it wasn't clear where to go or what to present. Coco got it done in the end. He could have done it alone but hey, he felt better with us there. A target to vent on, but what are parents for?
Best news of the day? When we went to pick up Coco for dinner, he texted that he would be a bit late. He was at the Strom Thurmond Health & Fitness Center, playing basketball with his roommate and with some new friends. That's right. He was out of his room. And he was meeting new people. I can't tell you how relieved Demi and I were. We knew our boy would be ok.
Overall, I would say it was a good move-in experience. It is still organized chaos though. The volun-tolds were there. There was not a clear leader. They didn't seem to have been give clear and consistent instructions. Coco's dorm was not cart friendly. Good news is that we were provided a cart and two volunteers to help move. Bad news is the cart was a cardboard box on an unattached set of wheels. On uneven ground, that cart design is poor.
The RM was extremely nice and very helpful. Bonus points = he is a Red Sox fan. Coco even got his bed elevated while we were there. UofSC didn't want students or parents messing with the bed frames. I wish Auburn had felt that way. Coco had his priorities. Get the smart TV up and running, then XBOX One. I will say, Demi did far less nesting than she did in Caz's room. That meant we were able to make our third Target run a lot earlier.
Coco was anxious. But all in all, I think he held it together. He was nervous about this book order. We all walked to the bookstore. I will say, it wasn't clear where to go or what to present. Coco got it done in the end. He could have done it alone but hey, he felt better with us there. A target to vent on, but what are parents for?
Best news of the day? When we went to pick up Coco for dinner, he texted that he would be a bit late. He was at the Strom Thurmond Health & Fitness Center, playing basketball with his roommate and with some new friends. That's right. He was out of his room. And he was meeting new people. I can't tell you how relieved Demi and I were. We knew our boy would be ok.
Monday, August 19, 2019
Off to USC
Off to South Carolina! This is it. We are taking Coco to college. A short flight to Charlotte, then a short drive to Columbia.
We got an early flight. We wanted to have plenty of time to drive down, check into the hotel and then go to Target. One thing we did really well with Caz for preparing to take him to college, was to order things from Walmart and have it all delivered to the store closest to campus. For Coco, it's Target.
Move-in day is tomorrow. We have an 8 am time-slot. I made sure to remember the Move-in packet. It has a parking placard for the car. It also has a placard that Coco needs to check-in and to receive his room key. We have to leave the house at 4:30 am. Man, is it early. I actually couldn't sleep. I was up at 2 am. I watched most of the Predator before I meditated, stretched and made coffee. I heard Coco up pacing too. He was definitely nervous, which in turn, made me nervous. I know in my heart, Coco will be alright. My heart needs to tell my head that. And then convince it.
We got an early flight. We wanted to have plenty of time to drive down, check into the hotel and then go to Target. One thing we did really well with Caz for preparing to take him to college, was to order things from Walmart and have it all delivered to the store closest to campus. For Coco, it's Target.
Move-in day is tomorrow. We have an 8 am time-slot. I made sure to remember the Move-in packet. It has a parking placard for the car. It also has a placard that Coco needs to check-in and to receive his room key. We have to leave the house at 4:30 am. Man, is it early. I actually couldn't sleep. I was up at 2 am. I watched most of the Predator before I meditated, stretched and made coffee. I heard Coco up pacing too. He was definitely nervous, which in turn, made me nervous. I know in my heart, Coco will be alright. My heart needs to tell my head that. And then convince it.
Wednesday, August 14, 2019
Last Night: Transformers
Last night with the 4 Chins in one place. Caz leaves to go back to Auburn tomorrow morning. Early. Really early. Somehow I seem to frequently draw the early morning airport runs. But I digress.
Caz gets to pick dinner. We offered to take him out. However, he procrastinated packing. Procrastination is not an uncommon occurrence. Chinese takeout is the call. Takeout from Tsangs’s Village Cafe in Hanover to be precise. Nothing but the best.
We all have a good talk at the dinner table. Family time is so important. We talk about everything and anything. We talk even when the subject isn’t an easy one. I think that has helped the boys be prepared to go off to college and off on their own. The boys may not talk much at times. But when it is important, they know they can talk with us.
It won’t be the same after tomorrow. It’s the beginning of the breaking of our fellowship. The start of the emptying of the nest. A family transformation.
Caz gets to pick dinner. We offered to take him out. However, he procrastinated packing. Procrastination is not an uncommon occurrence. Chinese takeout is the call. Takeout from Tsangs’s Village Cafe in Hanover to be precise. Nothing but the best.
We all have a good talk at the dinner table. Family time is so important. We talk about everything and anything. We talk even when the subject isn’t an easy one. I think that has helped the boys be prepared to go off to college and off on their own. The boys may not talk much at times. But when it is important, they know they can talk with us.
It won’t be the same after tomorrow. It’s the beginning of the breaking of our fellowship. The start of the emptying of the nest. A family transformation.
Tuesday, August 13, 2019
Let’s Talk About S@x, Baby
Another son going off to college. The same rules apply. While packing up Coco and ordering supplies to Target in Columbia, it is an opportune time for The Talk. It’s not the first time. It won’t be the last time. Demi and I are straight forward. We don’t want to be grandparents yet. Coco, you’re going to college. Wrap it up.
We have had discussions about STDs (or STIs I believe they are calling them these days). He knows Demi is going to send him to college with a box of condoms. While packing clothes in his room, Demi finds a condom. “Is this the brand you want?”
Silence.
“What size?”
At first, more silence. Then, “Extra large.”, with a smile and a chuckle.
Without missing a beat, “You know it doesn’t do any good if it’s too loose and falls off, right?”
The smile fades and Coco exits the room.
“So what size?”, as she follows him.
Coco can’t get away fast enough.
We have had discussions about STDs (or STIs I believe they are calling them these days). He knows Demi is going to send him to college with a box of condoms. While packing clothes in his room, Demi finds a condom. “Is this the brand you want?”
Silence.
“What size?”
At first, more silence. Then, “Extra large.”, with a smile and a chuckle.
Without missing a beat, “You know it doesn’t do any good if it’s too loose and falls off, right?”
The smile fades and Coco exits the room.
“So what size?”, as she follows him.
Coco can’t get away fast enough.
Monday, July 29, 2019
Griswolds' Vacation 2019
This year's vacation was epic! Top 5 for sure. It's funny, it didn't start out that way. The idea of it rankled me from the beginning. Personally, I wasn't happy that we had to go to North Carolina to celebrate our son’s high school graduation with that side of the family. Over 20 years, we have requested them to be in one place, all together, at once, and by us, 4 times. Two times at about each end of those two decades. I was a bit sour about it. But Coco didn’t seemed phased, so I just went with it.
We started in Raleigh, NC. In a 24 hour period, Demi and I went to three open house and caught up with old friends. My college roommate, his wife (also a Colby alum) and kids have lived in Cary, NC for 15 years. Demi’s high school friend and husband moved there 4 years ago. The six of us had a great time out in Cary.
Team Griswold drove out to Topsail Beach over 2 1/2 hours. It was a straight shot. Was the reward for that drive ever worth it! Our first time using VRBO and we struck gold! This beach house was amazing. Three floors, a huge garage, fenced in back yard with an enormous deck for walking the dog, two front deck balconies with clear views of the ocean, great open kitchen and living space, all had our own rooms and bathrooms and private beach access. What a HQ!
I was in the ocean every, single day. The water was warm. The waves were huge but not overpowering. One did need to beware of riptides. I swam and floated in that ocean for over an hour at a clip on party day. The beach was sandy. Instead of hunting for beach glass, people were searching for shark teeth. The weather was perfect. Even at close to 100 degrees, we were happy. There was one overcast day. No rain.
The party was a huge success. We spent a lot of time with the family. We had an amazing dinner at my sisters-in-law’s in Snead’s Ferry. She did a shrimp boil for 30, with two sets of spices. There was an incredible Vietnamese/Thai restaurant in Wilmington. We got ice cream, then walked the riverwalk in Wilmington. The highlight was the jet ski trip. About ten of us cruised a 9 mile stretch of the Intercoastal. The boys had so much fun they went back another day. Caz had an ear to ear grin, permanently spread across his face the whole ride. I saw dolphins twice, with one diving under my jet ski. Forget swimming with dolphins, go jet ski with them. Caz and Coco perfected their bodysurfing. Caz was at it daily.
A truly marvelous vacation. The Griswolds won this one!
We started in Raleigh, NC. In a 24 hour period, Demi and I went to three open house and caught up with old friends. My college roommate, his wife (also a Colby alum) and kids have lived in Cary, NC for 15 years. Demi’s high school friend and husband moved there 4 years ago. The six of us had a great time out in Cary.
Team Griswold drove out to Topsail Beach over 2 1/2 hours. It was a straight shot. Was the reward for that drive ever worth it! Our first time using VRBO and we struck gold! This beach house was amazing. Three floors, a huge garage, fenced in back yard with an enormous deck for walking the dog, two front deck balconies with clear views of the ocean, great open kitchen and living space, all had our own rooms and bathrooms and private beach access. What a HQ!
I was in the ocean every, single day. The water was warm. The waves were huge but not overpowering. One did need to beware of riptides. I swam and floated in that ocean for over an hour at a clip on party day. The beach was sandy. Instead of hunting for beach glass, people were searching for shark teeth. The weather was perfect. Even at close to 100 degrees, we were happy. There was one overcast day. No rain.
The party was a huge success. We spent a lot of time with the family. We had an amazing dinner at my sisters-in-law’s in Snead’s Ferry. She did a shrimp boil for 30, with two sets of spices. There was an incredible Vietnamese/Thai restaurant in Wilmington. We got ice cream, then walked the riverwalk in Wilmington. The highlight was the jet ski trip. About ten of us cruised a 9 mile stretch of the Intercoastal. The boys had so much fun they went back another day. Caz had an ear to ear grin, permanently spread across his face the whole ride. I saw dolphins twice, with one diving under my jet ski. Forget swimming with dolphins, go jet ski with them. Caz and Coco perfected their bodysurfing. Caz was at it daily.
A truly marvelous vacation. The Griswolds won this one!
Tuesday, July 9, 2019
Decision making - Weighing Risk, Rewards & Consequences
The boys have quite the operation going this summer. I do admire it. Caz hasn't been able to get out with all his pals often. They have have crazy work schedules. Dix has been deployed to CA. Argonaut has been deployed to NC. When they do manage to get out, Caz hasn't wanted to pay the consequences of misbehaving. He often has to get up early for work. A few times though, he has tip the scales the other way. For those times, he uses his head. He gets a ride from a friend who is not misbehaving or he sleeps over. Now Caz has negotiated a deal with Coco. For the prices of a trip to Taco Bell, Coco will pick up Caz from his friend's house. They both seem happy with the deal. And they are both safe in the end. I give them a lot of credit. A lot of kids their ages don't even stop to think about the consequences or to mull over options. I am proud of them.
Thursday, July 4, 2019
Independence Day 2019
Happy 4th of July USA!
Thank you to those who serve and to their families! Land of the free, because of the Brave.
Thank you to those who serve and to their families! Land of the free, because of the Brave.
Sunday, June 23, 2019
Graduation Party 2019
Demi pulled off a major feat. I shouldn't be surprised. She is the Super Hostess. She can plan a party like an All-Star. This graduation party was one for the record books.
Coco had more input that Caz did for his. Coco had a vision. And that vision was The Office. Coco wanted decorations from episodes of the office. I had no idea what that entailed. I should have known standard white paper stock would be in line. Upside down, brown & yellow balloons were also features. The food was taco based. Coco wanted a taco bar. Apparently, so did all his classmates. Every party we have gone too, has had guacamole, sour cream, salsa, nachos, hot sauce and taco meats. Demi cooked all of it for Coco's party. I thought that was overly aggressive but she pulled it off. And she did it in advance. We were gone for the better part of four days for Orientation, leading up to the party. There were 3 different kinds of corn for Pete's sake.
There was a great showing of my cousins for this party. It was nice to see some of them and their kids, who I haven't seen a quite some time. And really, it was my side of the family that dominated the attendance, which is very abnormal. I can't say I was happy about that leading up. Sure, there is going to be a joint party, which includes Coco, in NC in July. Sure, we are the family that lived out of state. But we asked the family to be in MA for family events 4 times in twenty odd years, with about that much time span in between half of them. I didn't think that was too much to ask. But what do I know?
The important thing is that Coco was happy. He and his friends really had a good time. He let Caz invite quite a few friends too. Caz and his buddies had fun too. Coco was able to socialize with adults, entertain his young cousins and children of family friends, and he was able to party with his pals. They were up late, always a sign of a good time. They slept late. And his buddies came back to help pick up. They really are a good bunch of kids. Coco was appreciative too. He hugged and thanked Demi a half dozen times. He hugged and thanked me. I think the showering of love humbled him. What a party!
Coco had more input that Caz did for his. Coco had a vision. And that vision was The Office. Coco wanted decorations from episodes of the office. I had no idea what that entailed. I should have known standard white paper stock would be in line. Upside down, brown & yellow balloons were also features. The food was taco based. Coco wanted a taco bar. Apparently, so did all his classmates. Every party we have gone too, has had guacamole, sour cream, salsa, nachos, hot sauce and taco meats. Demi cooked all of it for Coco's party. I thought that was overly aggressive but she pulled it off. And she did it in advance. We were gone for the better part of four days for Orientation, leading up to the party. There were 3 different kinds of corn for Pete's sake.
There was a great showing of my cousins for this party. It was nice to see some of them and their kids, who I haven't seen a quite some time. And really, it was my side of the family that dominated the attendance, which is very abnormal. I can't say I was happy about that leading up. Sure, there is going to be a joint party, which includes Coco, in NC in July. Sure, we are the family that lived out of state. But we asked the family to be in MA for family events 4 times in twenty odd years, with about that much time span in between half of them. I didn't think that was too much to ask. But what do I know?
The important thing is that Coco was happy. He and his friends really had a good time. He let Caz invite quite a few friends too. Caz and his buddies had fun too. Coco was able to socialize with adults, entertain his young cousins and children of family friends, and he was able to party with his pals. They were up late, always a sign of a good time. They slept late. And his buddies came back to help pick up. They really are a good bunch of kids. Coco was appreciative too. He hugged and thanked Demi a half dozen times. He hugged and thanked me. I think the showering of love humbled him. What a party!
Tuesday, June 18, 2019
Carolina Orientation
Coco, Demi and I had a successful orientation in Columbia, SC at the U of SC. Day One was a marathon. Day Two was shorter but we were still spent at the end of it. After all that, we all feel better about the decision for Coco to attend Gamecock Nation.
Coco was anxious right off the bat. The instructions about starting off were unclear. In fairness, Coco didn't put a lot of effort into preparing for it. I did put most of it on him. He needs to be able to fend for himself 17 hours from home (by car). He thought we could drive right up to the check-in. He started getting antsy when I told him we were walking. The starting point was a line that would make Disney World proud, snaking around a courtyard in the Carolina heat at 8 AM. Everyone was looking for shade. Once check-in started, the line moved pretty well. Coco seemed to calm down in line, when he saw two hundred or more other kids in the same line, with the same amount of luggage and in the same situation.
The rest of the day was a series of informational sessions, with a long walk in between. Some of the time we were with Coco. Other times, they broke the kids up into groups of 20 (which they stayed with for other small group breakouts) or by their college. They did shuttle us places a couple of times. But there was a long march to the college of arts & sciences during the height of the heat, that really gave you a taste of Carolina. The last lecture went until 6 pm. Coco had initially indicated that he would eat dinner with us. But he ultimately chose to eat with his small group. We were happy by that. Mostly because he was socializing with new classmate. Secondarily, we didn't want to eat on campus.
Over the course of the two days, we were given a lot of information. We were told how to pay tuition, how students select courses and how they would live and eat on campus. We were given information on campus security, on attending sporting events and on the city of Columbia. There were some really entertaining speakers actually. In the end, we all felt we knew what to expect come move-in day. I think Coco will be happy there. We think he will thrive there.
Spurs up!
Coco was anxious right off the bat. The instructions about starting off were unclear. In fairness, Coco didn't put a lot of effort into preparing for it. I did put most of it on him. He needs to be able to fend for himself 17 hours from home (by car). He thought we could drive right up to the check-in. He started getting antsy when I told him we were walking. The starting point was a line that would make Disney World proud, snaking around a courtyard in the Carolina heat at 8 AM. Everyone was looking for shade. Once check-in started, the line moved pretty well. Coco seemed to calm down in line, when he saw two hundred or more other kids in the same line, with the same amount of luggage and in the same situation.
The rest of the day was a series of informational sessions, with a long walk in between. Some of the time we were with Coco. Other times, they broke the kids up into groups of 20 (which they stayed with for other small group breakouts) or by their college. They did shuttle us places a couple of times. But there was a long march to the college of arts & sciences during the height of the heat, that really gave you a taste of Carolina. The last lecture went until 6 pm. Coco had initially indicated that he would eat dinner with us. But he ultimately chose to eat with his small group. We were happy by that. Mostly because he was socializing with new classmate. Secondarily, we didn't want to eat on campus.
Over the course of the two days, we were given a lot of information. We were told how to pay tuition, how students select courses and how they would live and eat on campus. We were given information on campus security, on attending sporting events and on the city of Columbia. There were some really entertaining speakers actually. In the end, we all felt we knew what to expect come move-in day. I think Coco will be happy there. We think he will thrive there.
Spurs up!
Wednesday, June 12, 2019
Dear DHS
Dear DHS,
Graduation is a time for congratulations, for recognition and for giving thanks. While we are so proud of our son, Kyle Chin, we would like to congratulate and thank all of you as well. You all provided so much support to us, in so many ways. You may not have even realized that you helped. So we, Kyle’s parents, would like you to know that all of your efforts are appreciated.
Some of you know Kyle’s story well. Others may not know it at all. We will try to be as brief as we can in recapping it.
Kyle began to experience bouts of pain just after starting middle school. At first, it seemed we could attribute it to jitters of starting a new school experience. Over time, the pain got worse and more frequent. He missed large chunks of school. We sought out medical help. We received multiple diagnoses, which led to various courses of treatment. Nothing seemed to work. He missed more and more school. Everything seemed to come to a head when Kyle entered DHS. We were fortunate enough to get an appointment with a specialist at Boston Children’s Hospital. Simply put Kyle is not able to shut off messages of pain going to his brain. He is always and will always, be in some level of pain. That pain manifests in his stomach, and can be intensified by anxiety. It is a chicken and the egg scenario, as to whether his physical ailments trigger his anxiety or vice versa. We were happy to receive a viable diagnosis and thought we were trending up. But the pain got worse. Kyle could barely leave the house. He missed months of freshman year. As fortune would have it, in the spring, a spot opened up in a program at Providence Children’s Hospital. At this time, 3 years ago, Kyle was transitioning out of that program and back into DHS. We were focused only on getting him back to school full time. Graduation was the furthest thing from our minds. Frankly, it didn’t seem likely to happen. College seemed to be a wild dream. Graduating from DHS on time? Improbable.
Kyle was determined to move on with his class, with his friends. You all helped make that possible. In the final weeks of that school year, you all worked with Kyle and with us, to help put him in a position to pass. Sure, his grades weren’t pretty. However, he was back at school full time and he was able to move on to sophomore year. Following that, he worked his way back to honors classes. He brought his grades up. Then, he was accepted at a few colleges, ultimately choosing to pursue History and Archaeology at the University of South Carolina.
Kyle and we owe a lot to our DHS village. It took everyone, teachers, administrators, guidance counselors, and staff. Whenever we contacted DHS, our first greeting was “what can we do to help?” Help came in a multitude of ways. And it came often. Seemingly little things, like a shared inside joke from Monty Python with a teacher, or a green wristband from a Phys Ed Volleyball Championship, went a long way towards building Kyle back up. We know your jobs are not easy. Having to tailor plans to accommodate one student, makes that job even more complex. We hope you know we understand and appreciate that. Kyle’s graduation is your achievement too. Congratulations!
With our deepest gratitude,
Demi and me
Saturday, June 1, 2019
Graduation 2019
The big day. Finally! Years in the making. The unfolding was not like most. Demi and I are so proud of Coco.
Graduation day = a time to recognize achievement, to congratulate, and to say thanks.
At this time 3 years ago, Demi and I didn't know if this was going to be possible. Coco was just wrapping up the day program at Providence Hasbro Childrens Hospital. After missing over 100 days of school, he was reintegrating back into DHS. We were hoping for the best. Each day we held our breath. Coco dug in. He was determined to stay on track to move to sophomore year with his buddies. By the end of June, the boy who taught himself math by searching out YouTube videos on algebra, was able to do just that.
Look how far you've come! DHS graduate. Off to @uofsc in August! Be proud of yourself son. We are.
Thank you to his village for their love and support. DHS was amazing. Teachers, administrators and guidance counselors made sure he could concentrate on healing and coping, while providing online courses, individual learning plans or even a ride to school. His incredible friends stuck by him. You couldn't blame a teenage kid to forget someone out of sight for so long, especially as one dealt with all the challenges of first year of high school. Not this bunch. They were always around, always looking to include him and accepting of his limitations. When he couldn't leave the house, they came to him. What a bunch!
Thank you to our village - our loved ones, family and friends. We couldn't have come through the dark times without you. Everything you did helped. You might not have even known you were helping, but you did. A simple "hi", a smile or a hug goes a long way. This day is yours too. We love you all.✌️
Friday, May 31, 2019
Boys night out
The Brothers Chin 2.0 are still on their bonding tour. Tonight, Caz made sure to include Coco in BBQ for Dix's going away party. Dix will be deployed, on active duty, with the Marine Corp. He will be in California for 4 months. Then he will be overseas in southeast Asia. Most likely, he will be in Okinawa, Thailand, Philippines and South Korea.
The invitation was a kind gesture by Caz. It really shows signs of personal growth. This is extra thoughtful seeing as Caz's girlfriend is here visiting from AL. It would be even easier to ignore his brother.
I actually had to text Caz around 11 pm. I was happy they were out but I started getting nervous that Coco would over do it and be wiped out for graduation. They came in not long after, laughing and yucking it up. What a sound!
The invitation was a kind gesture by Caz. It really shows signs of personal growth. This is extra thoughtful seeing as Caz's girlfriend is here visiting from AL. It would be even easier to ignore his brother.
I actually had to text Caz around 11 pm. I was happy they were out but I started getting nervous that Coco would over do it and be wiped out for graduation. They came in not long after, laughing and yucking it up. What a sound!
Thursday, May 23, 2019
Sibling Bonding
Demi and I noticed the same thing today. Coco and Caz were hanging out. They were interacting positively together. The two of them went out to play hoops together. Caz had Coco hanging out with his friends. They seemed to have a lot in common. The had great discussions. It made us both feel good. The high school sibling rivalry, the battling, seemed to have passed. It's the way we hoped they would be. Family first. You rely on the family. We have each other's backs. There is nothing we wouldn't do for each other. We think they are finally getting it.
Friday, May 17, 2019
Prom 2019 Part Two
Coco is ready for round two. It's his second year attending Prom at the rival high school. He insisted that he needed to be dismissed early again to prepare. Somehow, even though he is the visitor/guest, we we're hosting the after party. You will only get a headache trying to follow teenage logic.
The plans for pictures were not unveiled until the last minute. Why plan? I had to miss pictures. A friend's s uncle passed. The memorial was scheduled for today. The timing did allow that I could attend the memorial and then hit the red carpet. I was happy that I could do both.
The red carpet was fun. The Marshfield crowd was so enthusiastic. They were all extremely supportive of everyone. All couples, singles, groups and circumstances. There were inspirational walks. The event was uplifting and fun.
Demi and I had a very nice dinner after the red carpet. We hadn't been to the Sun Tavern in quite a while. The food was excellent. The conversation was even better. The two of us chatted about numerous topics.
The kids were back at the high school just after 11 pm. Coco had to drive around a bit for pickups and dropoffs. He and his cousin were at the house by midnight. Coco expected more kids put in the end there were just a few. By 2 am, it was just Coco and his cousin. A successful night.
The plans for pictures were not unveiled until the last minute. Why plan? I had to miss pictures. A friend's s uncle passed. The memorial was scheduled for today. The timing did allow that I could attend the memorial and then hit the red carpet. I was happy that I could do both.
The red carpet was fun. The Marshfield crowd was so enthusiastic. They were all extremely supportive of everyone. All couples, singles, groups and circumstances. There were inspirational walks. The event was uplifting and fun.
Demi and I had a very nice dinner after the red carpet. We hadn't been to the Sun Tavern in quite a while. The food was excellent. The conversation was even better. The two of us chatted about numerous topics.
The kids were back at the high school just after 11 pm. Coco had to drive around a bit for pickups and dropoffs. He and his cousin were at the house by midnight. Coco expected more kids put in the end there were just a few. By 2 am, it was just Coco and his cousin. A successful night.
Sunday, May 12, 2019
Mother’s Day Weekend 2019
This weekend was all about Demi. As it should be. Saturday was the only seasonally appropriate day, with sun and warmth. We got a lot if work done. The whole family put down the carpet on the deck. The screen house was put up. The outdoor furniture and cushions were place. We packed all of Mother’s Day chores into 5 hours. Then we got lobster rolls and walked the beach. That was the best part of the afternoon. Coco had to work, otherwise it was perfect.
Sunday had us next door for a few hours. I have to see my mom of course. And we got to see the Plantation Drive Chins. It was good extended family time. We got all afternoon together. The weather was miserable all day. We mode due. Scattegories is a Chin family favorite. We laugh a lot during this game. We played 14 rounds. It was so much fun. I cooked a paleo chili. Demi is doing a challenge at the gym. There was a new episode of the last season of Game of Thrones. What a weekend. Demi was happy. That is all that mattered.
Sunday had us next door for a few hours. I have to see my mom of course. And we got to see the Plantation Drive Chins. It was good extended family time. We got all afternoon together. The weather was miserable all day. We mode due. Scattegories is a Chin family favorite. We laugh a lot during this game. We played 14 rounds. It was so much fun. I cooked a paleo chili. Demi is doing a challenge at the gym. There was a new episode of the last season of Game of Thrones. What a weekend. Demi was happy. That is all that mattered.
Wednesday, May 8, 2019
College Comes Home
Caz is home. I am happy he got to spend a few days in Huntsville with his girlfriend, but the drawback is flying home from Nashville. There are only two direct flights a day from Nashville to Boston. The evening flight lands in Boston at 11 pm. It’s still a school night for Demi and me. Demi slept the whole ride in. Lucky her.
Caz actually got in early. I went in to help with luggage. Demi had to pull a u-ey in Everett after being told to move along. She got back in perfect time. Gizmo went bonkers as Caz entered the car. We stopped at Wendy’s for our hungry son. Then we were home. Things just felt right. All the Chins were back together.
Caz actually got in early. I went in to help with luggage. Demi had to pull a u-ey in Everett after being told to move along. She got back in perfect time. Gizmo went bonkers as Caz entered the car. We stopped at Wendy’s for our hungry son. Then we were home. Things just felt right. All the Chins were back together.
Saturday, May 4, 2019
DHS Prom 2019
Another year, another Prom equals another success. I really enjoyed being on the fringe, observing Coco having a ball. For a parent, this year's prom excelled past anything I could have hoped for.
Coco and Demi prepped upstairs. Coco even submitted to a test run with his hair around noon. They mapped out a shower and dressing strategy, starting at 2:30 pm. I got a kick out of watching them execute it. Coco still had a wet head of hear, with most of his tuxedo on when I walked past to see Demi tucking him all in. I am pretty sure I made a Lannister Game of Thrones reference.
Coco finished earlier than expected. I watched him pace around nervously before his date and his friends showed up. The photo shoot entertained me immensely. The pinning of the boutonnieres is like an Olympic sport. So many traditional skills are becoming lost. Tying a tie, folding a pocket square and pinning boutonnieres are almost a lost art. Coco's date, Melissandre, smiled the entire time. She possesses one of those energetic personalities, which really comes alive when a camera is around. That's not a bad thing. You need someone to be excited about pictures with teenagers. She got the rest of them to loosen up and smile for all the parents taking pictures. The parents appreciated having one spot for pictures. Melissandre's dads were please with Coco as her date. He is a good young man, who treats women with respect.
Following the Zoolander photo shoot at the house, we all raced for the red carpet at the High School. Very well attended, parking became a premium. I dropped off Demi with the camera, so that I could find a parking space. As it was, I barely made it in time to see Coco and Melissandre get out of their ride and walk the red carpet. It is a great Duxbury tradition now. A lot of folks turn out to see the kids all dolled up. The rides are part of the attraction too. I can't tell you how many boats bore prom goers to the carpet. Old classic cars, Mom and Dad's luxury vehicles and even a float were in the procession. Volunteer parents valet these things. The kids walk the carpet, then enter the High School to a snacks and hors d'oeuvres before boarding the buses to Gillette. How cool is that venue?
After the Post-Prom plans were up in the air right up until the bus ride home. Melissandre had a mandatory skating practice the next morning, so she went home. Her friend was in the same bind, so Coco's buddy ended up going home after too. Coco ended up going across the street at 2 am to hang with his friends. I am so happy he did that. This is their final run. Their senior year, their high school careers, are coming to an end. They have so little precious time together. I am happy he took advantage of it.
Coco and Demi prepped upstairs. Coco even submitted to a test run with his hair around noon. They mapped out a shower and dressing strategy, starting at 2:30 pm. I got a kick out of watching them execute it. Coco still had a wet head of hear, with most of his tuxedo on when I walked past to see Demi tucking him all in. I am pretty sure I made a Lannister Game of Thrones reference.
Coco finished earlier than expected. I watched him pace around nervously before his date and his friends showed up. The photo shoot entertained me immensely. The pinning of the boutonnieres is like an Olympic sport. So many traditional skills are becoming lost. Tying a tie, folding a pocket square and pinning boutonnieres are almost a lost art. Coco's date, Melissandre, smiled the entire time. She possesses one of those energetic personalities, which really comes alive when a camera is around. That's not a bad thing. You need someone to be excited about pictures with teenagers. She got the rest of them to loosen up and smile for all the parents taking pictures. The parents appreciated having one spot for pictures. Melissandre's dads were please with Coco as her date. He is a good young man, who treats women with respect.
Following the Zoolander photo shoot at the house, we all raced for the red carpet at the High School. Very well attended, parking became a premium. I dropped off Demi with the camera, so that I could find a parking space. As it was, I barely made it in time to see Coco and Melissandre get out of their ride and walk the red carpet. It is a great Duxbury tradition now. A lot of folks turn out to see the kids all dolled up. The rides are part of the attraction too. I can't tell you how many boats bore prom goers to the carpet. Old classic cars, Mom and Dad's luxury vehicles and even a float were in the procession. Volunteer parents valet these things. The kids walk the carpet, then enter the High School to a snacks and hors d'oeuvres before boarding the buses to Gillette. How cool is that venue?
After the Post-Prom plans were up in the air right up until the bus ride home. Melissandre had a mandatory skating practice the next morning, so she went home. Her friend was in the same bind, so Coco's buddy ended up going home after too. Coco ended up going across the street at 2 am to hang with his friends. I am so happy he did that. This is their final run. Their senior year, their high school careers, are coming to an end. They have so little precious time together. I am happy he took advantage of it.
Thursday, May 2, 2019
Prom Season
It’s Prom week. The first of two proms again for Coco. The tux was picked up from the dry cleaners. Coco tried on the whole monkey suit. He got his hair cut. The mode of transportation is settled. The schedule for pictures and locations has been nailed down. It is just a waiting game now. The calm before the storm.
Tuesday, April 30, 2019
Patriots vs Duxbury
What a way to end the month! The Patriots Charity team came to DHS to play the Duxbury “All-Stars” for charity. Our friends & neighbors had extra tickets & invited Coco and me. Not only were they tickets, they were VIP tickets. We got in early. There were wristbands for autographed footballs, thrown by Patriot players.
We stayed out seats in the front row, right by the Patriots bench. We were eager to see which Patriots showed up. I recognized Jonathan Jones early. He played college ball at Auburn. War Eagle! Coincidentally, I had my orange Auburn sweatshirt on. I tried to get his attention. I had to sneak a picture of hi on the bench to send to Caz.
Coco initially turned down a wristband. He gets shy at the oddest times. Even when Rosie, Caz’s buddy got one, he bailed. A second attempt did the trick though. He capitulated. In the end, he got to catch on over the shoulder pass from Elandon Roberts. What a memory! I am so glad we went. We have such a short time left before he goes off to college. I plan to take advantage of all that time.
We stayed out seats in the front row, right by the Patriots bench. We were eager to see which Patriots showed up. I recognized Jonathan Jones early. He played college ball at Auburn. War Eagle! Coincidentally, I had my orange Auburn sweatshirt on. I tried to get his attention. I had to sneak a picture of hi on the bench to send to Caz.
Coco initially turned down a wristband. He gets shy at the oddest times. Even when Rosie, Caz’s buddy got one, he bailed. A second attempt did the trick though. He capitulated. In the end, he got to catch on over the shoulder pass from Elandon Roberts. What a memory! I am so glad we went. We have such a short time left before he goes off to college. I plan to take advantage of all that time.
Sunday, April 21, 2019
Easter 2019
Another successful family holiday. We had my side of the family over for Easter dinner. We are not religious folk. We are not observing the holiday as a lot of people do. But it is a reason to get your loved ones together, eat good food and drink merrily.
Demi does invite her family. Some used to come occasionally. With more of them in NC now, I think those days are over.
Demi will not allow us to host and to run out of food. There will never be a doubt that there will be enough food. No one will go hunger. No one will go thirsty either. There was lamb, roasted veggies, 2 styles of mac & cheese, salad, lasagna and croissants. That was just dinner. For starters, there was a salmon pate, shrimp ring and charcouterie. Dessert was a strawberry shortcake trifle and key lime pie. Winner, winner!
Having the family around was nice. Sure my parents are next door but they don’t leave the house much. My brother’s family just got back from a very long road trip to NC to see my sister in-law’s family. My brother’s kids are a great age for Easter. They still believe in the Easter Bunny. They like to have Easter egg hunts. Coco is a great sport. He likes to participate with them. Caz would too, but being off to school, he can’t. Holidays aren’t the same with out him. This was the last Easter with at least one of my sons around. That is why it is so important to get in the extended family time while you can. And different is OK. It doesn’t mean it’s bad. I just miss my son. And I will miss them both next year.
Demi does invite her family. Some used to come occasionally. With more of them in NC now, I think those days are over.
Demi will not allow us to host and to run out of food. There will never be a doubt that there will be enough food. No one will go hunger. No one will go thirsty either. There was lamb, roasted veggies, 2 styles of mac & cheese, salad, lasagna and croissants. That was just dinner. For starters, there was a salmon pate, shrimp ring and charcouterie. Dessert was a strawberry shortcake trifle and key lime pie. Winner, winner!
Having the family around was nice. Sure my parents are next door but they don’t leave the house much. My brother’s family just got back from a very long road trip to NC to see my sister in-law’s family. My brother’s kids are a great age for Easter. They still believe in the Easter Bunny. They like to have Easter egg hunts. Coco is a great sport. He likes to participate with them. Caz would too, but being off to school, he can’t. Holidays aren’t the same with out him. This was the last Easter with at least one of my sons around. That is why it is so important to get in the extended family time while you can. And different is OK. It doesn’t mean it’s bad. I just miss my son. And I will miss them both next year.
Tuesday, April 16, 2019
Personal Finance
Coco just ran through the same process as his brother. Once you turn 18, you become a legal adult, so it’s time for your own bank account. This helps with going off to college. It is also another step towards being aware of your finances. Sure he probably could have stayed with BOA, but I can’t stand that bank and he gets Fidelity accounts for free, while I work there,
As part of the process, we talked about what each account is for. We talked about general investing and finances. We opened an IRA. We talked about the importance of saving now. Coco understood he long term investment horizon, risk tolerance and investment models. He will also get an infusion cash to that IRA, since I opened a minor custodial account years ago, on his behalf.
This is just another important topic to have in regular conversations. Talk about it early and often. These kids need to understand financial obligations and responsibilities. I feel like I would fail them, if I stayed quiet.
Sunday, April 14, 2019
Game of Thrones Day
This is it! The final season of Game of Thrones starts tonight! Coco is trying his best to catch up in time. Caz will be watching in Auburn. I can’t wait for us to be all together to talk about it. Not a show you want to watch with your parents. But it will be fun to recap with them. Winter is here!
Saturday, April 13, 2019
Happy 20th Caz
No more teen years. Twenty seems like such an adult age. It really is a milestone. Hope you have a great birthday son. We love you. I am sure you will find some way to celebrate in Auburn.
War Eagle!
War Eagle!
Thursday, April 11, 2019
Report Card
Coco looks like he is leaving high school on a high note. Third term report cards are out. Coco made honor roll. That is a great accomplishment for him. He has come so far from the trials and tribulations of his freshman year. He could easily have senioritis, which to some extent he does. But he is making the grade. He knows he still needs to submit final transcripts. So proud of him.
Sunday, April 7, 2019
Egypt Live
The Discovery Channel was promoting a big live 2 hour spectacular. A live archaeological dig in Egypt, with Josh Gates, host of Expedition Unknown. I thought this was perfect for Coco. He wants to study history and archaeology, but be interviewed on the History Channel. I planted the seed with Coco early. And he was interested. We spent the two hours watching the team dig and the explanations of what they were digging for, the history of Egypt, etc. But as Josh was cluing us in, Coco was coming up with more facts. He knew about the Egyptologist already. He gave Demi and me a brief bio on him. He was really into it. So much so, he and Demi watched another episode of Expedition Unknown together. It was nice to have them have some alone time.
Monday, April 1, 2019
The Classics
Coco has been on a book tear, ever since his birthday. He is on a mission to collect a lot of the classics. Not just classics, but specific editions of each book. He really likes the hard bound books with the decorative covers, similar to the copy of "Twenty Thousand Leagues Under the Sea" that he got for his birthday. He finally just finished reading that. No Coco is on to the unabridged "The Count of Monte Cristo", a thousand pages of really tiny font. Also on this list:
War & Peace
Anna Karenina
Don Quixote
Macbeth
Hamlet
A Midsummer's Night Dream
Othello
The Three Musketeers
The Great Gatsby
Great Expectations
A Tale of Two Cities
War & Peace
Anna Karenina
Don Quixote
Macbeth
Hamlet
A Midsummer's Night Dream
Othello
The Three Musketeers
The Great Gatsby
Great Expectations
A Tale of Two Cities
Thursday, March 21, 2019
March Madness 2019
Day one of the Big Dance! The boys and I made our brackets. We each did our own thing, so we weren't directly competing. I decided to start a group text with the boys and Demi. I thought Demi might enjoy the banter. Did she ever.
The boys were watching the first game, right out of the gate. Auburn was an early game. It started at 1:30 pm EDT. That meant I would not be able to watch tip off. I actually only caught the last few minutes, using my iPhone. That was enough to totally stress me out. It was wild. The Tiger let NM St stay close. Too close. It was almost like Auburn was going to give the game away, in the last 20 seconds. They missed their free throws. They turned the ball over. They didn't play the right defense. Somehow they maned to squeak out a one point win.
We all lost the very first game. Lousiville choked. I didn't realize there was some interesting links between Minnesota and Louisville. I do think had I known Rick Pitino's son was coaching Minn, I might have picked them. That is what I get for being a part time fan.
The boys texted updates. They "voiced" their enthusiasm. Demi really enjoyed seeing the interaction. We all won!
The boys were watching the first game, right out of the gate. Auburn was an early game. It started at 1:30 pm EDT. That meant I would not be able to watch tip off. I actually only caught the last few minutes, using my iPhone. That was enough to totally stress me out. It was wild. The Tiger let NM St stay close. Too close. It was almost like Auburn was going to give the game away, in the last 20 seconds. They missed their free throws. They turned the ball over. They didn't play the right defense. Somehow they maned to squeak out a one point win.
We all lost the very first game. Lousiville choked. I didn't realize there was some interesting links between Minnesota and Louisville. I do think had I known Rick Pitino's son was coaching Minn, I might have picked them. That is what I get for being a part time fan.
The boys texted updates. They "voiced" their enthusiasm. Demi really enjoyed seeing the interaction. We all won!
Saturday, March 9, 2019
Spring Break 2019
Caz is coming home tonight for Spring Break. We cannot wait to see him. Caz wanted to come home to spend some time with his buddy, Dix. Dix is going to be deployed with his Marine Corp unit in May. Sure Caz wants to see us. But I am happy that he was thinking of Dix. It’s good to think of your friends. I am proud of him for doing so.
The extra bonus is that he is not going to so,e tropical destination to drink his face off.
The extra bonus is that he is not going to so,e tropical destination to drink his face off.
Wednesday, March 6, 2019
Bookworm
Coco crafted a list for his birthday, which fascinated me. The list contained mostly books. Not just titles and authors, these were specific books. Most were chosen for the bookbinding. Really amazing artistry covers “Twenty Thousand Leagues Under the Sea” . Classic Middle Earth artwork covers this specific edition of “The Hobbit”. There are ten copies of this Tolkien time in the house. There is even a copy of this edition, but it is missing the jacket cover and it has a library stamp (bought from the library, not checked out and never returned).
Then with his birthday money, Coco ordered a whole bunch of books from Amazon. These were also literary classics. These were also chosen for their bookbinding. The conversation we had entertained me greatly.
Then with his birthday money, Coco ordered a whole bunch of books from Amazon. These were also literary classics. These were also chosen for their bookbinding. The conversation we had entertained me greatly.
Friday, March 1, 2019
Wednesday, February 27, 2019
The Playlist
Coco controlled the radio on the way home from the Celtics game. We had a great time celebrating his birthday at the Garden. Now he was celebrating with music.
Coco popped in his “Throwback” playlist. The oddest collection of songs followed. We talked about each and every one. It was an epic ride home. “Runaway Train” by Soul Asylum made me nostalgic for my early apartment living days. We talked about the iconic music video it had. Coco thought he could stump me with “Set Adrift on Memory Bliss” but I nailed the artist (PM Dawn) immediately. “Californication” was a nod to Caz. I was really surprised by songs he had on there. Pleasantly surprised.
Coco popped in his “Throwback” playlist. The oddest collection of songs followed. We talked about each and every one. It was an epic ride home. “Runaway Train” by Soul Asylum made me nostalgic for my early apartment living days. We talked about the iconic music video it had. Coco thought he could stump me with “Set Adrift on Memory Bliss” but I nailed the artist (PM Dawn) immediately. “Californication” was a nod to Caz. I was really surprised by songs he had on there. Pleasantly surprised.
Legal Adulthood
Happy 18th Birthday, Coco!
Welcome to legal adulthood. Register to vote! Remember it’s a privilege. It is your civic duty to exercise that right. Whether it is local or national, voting in an election is important. Vote responsibly. Know what you believe. Know the issues and their associated facts. Be an informed voter. Don’t be mindless, easily influenced or swayed by the masses.
Keep making good decisions. Being an adult means the consequences for poor decisions are more severe. Use what you have learned so far. “With great power, comes great responsibility “
Welcome to legal adulthood. Register to vote! Remember it’s a privilege. It is your civic duty to exercise that right. Whether it is local or national, voting in an election is important. Vote responsibly. Know what you believe. Know the issues and their associated facts. Be an informed voter. Don’t be mindless, easily influenced or swayed by the masses.
Keep making good decisions. Being an adult means the consequences for poor decisions are more severe. Use what you have learned so far. “With great power, comes great responsibility “
Sunday, February 17, 2019
Bohemian Rhapsody
Coco, Demi and I watched Bohemian Rhapsody. Caz saw it in theaters. He had highly recommended it. It lived up to the billing.
Rami Malek was fantastic. His acting was spot on. His body moved exactly as Freddie’s did, whether just walking or on stage. The Live Aid scene was amazing. I really enjoyed the banter with Coco. He was really into the story. He gave us a kinds of facts about the individual band members as we queued up the movie. Each time we paused the movie, he had another fun fact. He really liked the music too. All around, this was a winner.
Rami Malek was fantastic. His acting was spot on. His body moved exactly as Freddie’s did, whether just walking or on stage. The Live Aid scene was amazing. I really enjoyed the banter with Coco. He was really into the story. He gave us a kinds of facts about the individual band members as we queued up the movie. Each time we paused the movie, he had another fun fact. He really liked the music too. All around, this was a winner.
Saturday, February 16, 2019
Decision 2019
Well, Coco has made his decision for college. It’s official! Coco will be attending the University of South Carolina. Go Gamecocks! He knows it is a better school for his major. He feels like he will be happy there. We are so proud of him The next Indiana Jones.
Friday, February 8, 2019
An Overnight
Amazing night for Demi and me. Wine dinner. Cottage overlooking the beach. Good friends. Great conversations. We had quite a night. How it unfolded telling Coco? The is the best story.
Demi started getting a “feeling”, so she didn’t want to give Coco notice up front. She worked out an elaborate plan to divulge information on a timely, need to know basis. There was no sign of us packing beforehand. We left dinner and gas money on the counter, after he left for school. When Coco got home from school, he was told we were out for dinner and there was money for his dinner. A little later on, he actually asked what time we would be home. That is when Demi told him we were staying over. Turns out he spent the night on XBOX and eating pizza. So just like any other night. But the risk was mitigated. No shenanigans went on.
Demi started getting a “feeling”, so she didn’t want to give Coco notice up front. She worked out an elaborate plan to divulge information on a timely, need to know basis. There was no sign of us packing beforehand. We left dinner and gas money on the counter, after he left for school. When Coco got home from school, he was told we were out for dinner and there was money for his dinner. A little later on, he actually asked what time we would be home. That is when Demi told him we were staying over. Turns out he spent the night on XBOX and eating pizza. So just like any other night. But the risk was mitigated. No shenanigans went on.
Tuesday, February 5, 2019
Patriots Parade 2019
Demi texted me yesterday about what I thought about Coco going to the parade with his friends. He hadn’t said anything to either one of us. We both thought it was a good idea. Demi broached it with him after school. We thought he would go with his crew. And Coco started planning with them. In the end, he ended up going with his prom date and her friends. Interesting twist.
It didn’t dawn on me until this morning that Coco had never been on the T on his own. I texted him a bunch of information during my morning commute. I also urged him to leave earlier than planned. The crowd was already heavy when I was headed into the city. I made sure he knew how to get to me in the city too. He did really well. He called and texted with questions after the parade, when they were trying to get on the T. He and his friends bought the right ticket. They got on the right train. More importantly, they had fun. They had an experience that will last a lifetime.
Sunday, February 3, 2019
Super Bowl Sunday 2019
aka Janet Jackson Appreciation Day
Patriots vs Rams Part Deux
I admit, I was getting increasingly nervous as kickoff approached. I am not sure if the cause was the game or that it was going to be my last one watching with one of the boys. It had hit me days ago, that next year, I will be watching with Demi only. Then the curve ball came.
Forty five minutes before kickoff, Coco asked if he could go to a friend’s house. His crew was getting together to watch the big game. There was no way to say no. I love that he would be with his friends. But a part of me was sad. Demi and l offered food & snacks he could bring. We gave him the standard warnings. We asked him to be wary of other drivers. He promised to text when he was leaving. Then he was off.
At least the Patriots won. Title number 6. Lowest scoring Super Bowl ever. Not exciting for the casual fan. But cue the duck boats! It’s time for a parade!
Patriots vs Rams Part Deux
I admit, I was getting increasingly nervous as kickoff approached. I am not sure if the cause was the game or that it was going to be my last one watching with one of the boys. It had hit me days ago, that next year, I will be watching with Demi only. Then the curve ball came.
Forty five minutes before kickoff, Coco asked if he could go to a friend’s house. His crew was getting together to watch the big game. There was no way to say no. I love that he would be with his friends. But a part of me was sad. Demi and l offered food & snacks he could bring. We gave him the standard warnings. We asked him to be wary of other drivers. He promised to text when he was leaving. Then he was off.
At least the Patriots won. Title number 6. Lowest scoring Super Bowl ever. Not exciting for the casual fan. But cue the duck boats! It’s time for a parade!
Tuesday, January 22, 2019
Enter Sandman
Caz went to his first really epic rock show on his own. Well, without me that is. His girlfriend got him tickets to see Metallica in Birmingham. He was thrilled.
He couldn’t wait to tell us about how excited he was to be going. He was like a kid before Christmas. His girlfriend had called to ask if it was all right because the show was on a school night. Very sweet. Caz figured he would be fine the next day. His first class was at 11 am. His poor girlfriend had class at 8am.
Caz loved the set list. They played all his favorites. I don’t think he realized Metallica hadn’t played Birmingham in over 20 years. He really got lucky. So happy for him.
He couldn’t wait to tell us about how excited he was to be going. He was like a kid before Christmas. His girlfriend had called to ask if it was all right because the show was on a school night. Very sweet. Caz figured he would be fine the next day. His first class was at 11 am. His poor girlfriend had class at 8am.
Caz loved the set list. They played all his favorites. I don’t think he realized Metallica hadn’t played Birmingham in over 20 years. He really got lucky. So happy for him.
Friday, January 11, 2019
Determination
Coco really wanted to place out of having to take as many of his final exams for term 1, as he possibly could. He was on a mission. Of course, that mission came down to the wire. He did procrastinate a bit. Actually, a lot. This week he spent almost every night on school work.
He spent hours constructing a Lego diorama for math. He put a lot of effort into a Sports History paper. This was actually a joint project. His partner needed a 100 on it in order to place out of the final. Coco actually calculated his odds of placing out of his exams. The odds weren't great. He tried to tell the odds to me but I quipped, "never tell me the odds, kid."
The Sports History project did indeed receive a 100. His math exam is a full year class, which is exempt from placing out of finals. In the end, Coco placed out of 4 exams. He takes 2 in total. Monday and Thursday, he doesn't have to go into school at all. Here is my old man moment - That was never available to us going through DHS. It is sort of laughable. I know it benefits the teachers too. It lightens the load a bit. But still. How does that prepare them for life after high school?
Good for Coco though. He should be very please with himself. I know Demi and I are.
He spent hours constructing a Lego diorama for math. He put a lot of effort into a Sports History paper. This was actually a joint project. His partner needed a 100 on it in order to place out of the final. Coco actually calculated his odds of placing out of his exams. The odds weren't great. He tried to tell the odds to me but I quipped, "never tell me the odds, kid."
The Sports History project did indeed receive a 100. His math exam is a full year class, which is exempt from placing out of finals. In the end, Coco placed out of 4 exams. He takes 2 in total. Monday and Thursday, he doesn't have to go into school at all. Here is my old man moment - That was never available to us going through DHS. It is sort of laughable. I know it benefits the teachers too. It lightens the load a bit. But still. How does that prepare them for life after high school?
Good for Coco though. He should be very please with himself. I know Demi and I are.
Monday, January 7, 2019
Term 2 2019
Caz went back to Auburn today. It’s always a bittersweet day. I have said this before, and I will say it again. I am happy that he loves Auburn and he is always eager to return. But I still have a tough time saying goodbye.
Caz had been itching to go back for days. He was more than ready. I remember that feeling. I couldn’t wait to get back to Colby after New Years.
He is getting good at this traveling thing. He checked in for his flight yesterday, without being reminded. He put his boarding pass on his phone. He packed himself (after Demi did his laundry). He even cleaned up the living room (mostly).
Caz was ready when I came back from the gym. He was up already. He went to say goodbye to Demi, while I jumped in the shower. We made himself a breakfast sandwich for the road. We had a nice ride into the airport, despite the traffic. It was nice conversing about college, friends and football.
I will miss him. But he is where he belongs.
Caz had been itching to go back for days. He was more than ready. I remember that feeling. I couldn’t wait to get back to Colby after New Years.
He is getting good at this traveling thing. He checked in for his flight yesterday, without being reminded. He put his boarding pass on his phone. He packed himself (after Demi did his laundry). He even cleaned up the living room (mostly).
Caz was ready when I came back from the gym. He was up already. He went to say goodbye to Demi, while I jumped in the shower. We made himself a breakfast sandwich for the road. We had a nice ride into the airport, despite the traffic. It was nice conversing about college, friends and football.
I will miss him. But he is where he belongs.
Tuesday, January 1, 2019
New Year’s Day 2019
Happy New Years!
What a stress free New Year’s Eve last night. Both of the boys stayed home. Demi and I were the ones that went out. Not that we went buck wild. But we stayed in Duxbury, with 6 other adults. There were 5 little kids too, so the rowdiness factor was low for the adults. It was so nice for Demi and me not to have to watch little kids or fret about our older children being out driving on a high risk night. Good times!
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