Saturday, December 17, 2016
The boys chose Percy's Place for breakfast. We scored a win when we didn't have to wait to be seated. Caz got his eggs and pancakes. Coco got a breakfast for the ages, the Buffalo Bomb. A croissant stuffed with scrambled eggs and buffalo chicken, smothered with cheese sauce. You also get a choice of two sides. Coco chose home fries and hash browns. Two Potato sides. The plate must have weighed ten pounds. It was a mound of food. And we got a free cornbread to take home.
We finished eating in time to see the 1:30 PM 3D showing of Rogue One. The previews were great. The movie was fantastic. Really well done. It lived up to the hype. The boys then went off on their own to Christmas shop. They were really amusing. The called Demi 3 times for help. I had to help them out at the ATM. They had me pull up the car and then close my eyes, while they loaded the car. They were so excited about their purchases. It wasn't the stuff. It was their eyes lighting up at picking the perfect gifts that made the night.
Thursday, December 8, 2016
We had a late cake session. We ate got home late from the meet. We ate dinner late. But they still wanted to do cake and presents. I told them we could wait. But it was nice. They were excited to see how they did with their gifts. Caz's stole the show. He went to get a collapsible snow shovel for my car. He ended up getting a real shovel. A real child's shovel. "Use under adult supervision." "For ages 6 and up." "May cause injuries." Well, at least he tried....
Monday, December 5, 2016
Saturday, November 12, 2016
Demi and I took advantage of some alone time. We had a great dinner in the North End. We saw a great show in the Boston Garden, which raised money for a great cause, the Neely House.. We saw some great comedians. There was one trouble spot when one comic went too political. Nerves were still too raw from the previous week's election. But the show came back around. Demi and I went back to the North End and got some pastries for the road. You need these nights. All 4 of us benefit from it.
Friday, November 4, 2016
I picked up my nephew from day care. Linda called in the order of Chinese food. Caz picked up my niece from a play date with her neighbor. It was all going so well. Until Hank and I went to pick up the food. They didn't have or order. The order was called into the other location. So off we went on a 40 minute detour. Oh well. More one on one time with my nephew. He was in great spirits. He gave me such a great hello when I picked him up. He was very chatty. He was looking to help me get the food.
My parents were happy. They appreciated the time with all of us. They didn't have plans. They were also not feeling up to much after Dad's surgery and Mom's complication from her test. I pressed them for next year. What would they like to do? Who would they like to see? Dad said no one. He doesn't want a fuss. Too bad. This is the one time I have to ignore his wishes. 50 years is a long time. It deserves a celebration.
Tuesday, November 1, 2016
Monday, October 31, 2016
Day 2 was Game Day. We went out to Williams Brice Stadium where the Gamecocks were 14 point underdogs to Tennessee. We did the whole tailgating thing. We had been invited to a tailgate randomly the night before. We went through Gamecock Park and Gamecock Village. We saw the. Gamecock Walk. We saw the line of Cabooses by the stadium. And then the game was fantastic. The home team won by 3. The place was going bonkers the whole time.
The quote of the weekend was Caz - "It is so peaceful here." If the South didn't sell itself to Caz on this trip, nothing will.
Thursday, October 27, 2016
Tuesday, October 25, 2016
Monday, October 17, 2016
Friday, October 14, 2016
Friday, October 7, 2016
He and his buddies didn't end up at the dance. Of course, it sounds like no one went. But the thought was there. I saw him once during the game. Afterwards, on the ride home he told me all about the pep rally. I got chapter and verse. He was so excited. I had him repeat it all to Demi when we got home. She had the same comment. It is so nice to see Coco like this. I hope it is a good sign that we may be turning a corner. I am not putting the cart before the horse. But I am hopeful.
Tuesday, October 4, 2016
Saturday, October 1, 2016
Monday, September 26, 2016
Tuesday, September 20, 2016
Monday, September 19, 2016
Saturday, September 17, 2016
Tex told me as he was waiting for Caz to get dressed, that it was a day trip. It wouldn't be the first time a teenage crew changed plans. Of course, we will see if Roth wants his high school crew to stay up there. It might cramp his style a bit. You never know. I am glad Caz is getting to see the campus though. He had Wentworth on his college list for a while. I don't think he wants to be in a big city though.
Wednesday, September 7, 2016
This year was a bit of a reality check. This was the last run through Caz's classes. The first of many last this year. Our oldest son is a senior. Lasts will abound. How did it get here so fast? We need to stop and savor each one. I certainly hope he does.
Monday, September 5, 2016
He actually tried getting out of it. The problem is that he has already taken the other electives during that block. He seems a little excited about it. He wants to learn the song he has chosen. The syllabus is just pain odd. Learn a song I two weeks. No prerequisites for this class. Are you kidding? What kind of method is that. Caz cannot read sheet music. However, he found either a YouTube instructional video or app to teach hi by ear. He wants to learn "Behind Blue Eyes." I will give him credit, it's not "Mary Had A Little Lamb."
Coco is challenging himself to do more too. He needs to take a foreign language. This means dropping a Learning Center. Coco didn't hesitate in making the decision. That was so nice to see.
Caz showed a caring side to hi as well. Demi asked about practice. Caz laid out his sprint practice. When asked if Coco participated, Caz answered that Coco did regular XC practice. He also offered earnestly that he felt Coco should stick with XC and run the distance. Caz said it taught hi to push himself and he feels Coco needs that. I think Caz is right. What a great family/Sibling moment.
Wednesday, August 31, 2016
Caz is driving his sophomore brother to school. They got up on time. They got dressed, brushed their teeth, took a picture for mom, and rode off to school early. All was well with the world.....until....Demi gets a call. It is Caz. He has forgotten his backpack, laptop and lunch. Doh! Well....they are back to school. And they both went to XC practice. That is a big day for Coco.
Demi and I were on pins and needles. Today was the moment of the truth. We had hig hopes. We want Coco to set the bar high and go over. He certainly did that today. We are very proud of him.
Tuesday, August 16, 2016
Thursday, August 11, 2016
Wednesday, August 10, 2016
Sunday, August 7, 2016
Friday, August 5, 2016
Tuesday, August 2, 2016
While we were eating dinner, Caz's friends came to the front door. Beast and AD had walked over from the other neighborhood, as usual. They came in and sat at the dinner table while we finished eating. They both politely declined repeated invitation to eat with us. I had a really nice conversation with them. We covered Beast's current lifeguard job, his desire to be an EMT and Fire Fighter, and his recent tattoo. We talked about AD's sister, her health problems, her emotional problems and his attempts to help her. When Caz ready to leave, they both got up, shook my hand and commented that it was a great talk. Quite an evening.
Thursday, July 21, 2016
Last night was a great Father/Son event. Caz and I went to Gillette to see the Guns n Roses Not In This Lifetime Tour. Caz prepped the cooler. He went out and got subs for dinner. He packed the chairs. He did this all before I got home from work.
We listened to GnR an they way up, with some Lenny Kravitz, the opening act, mixed in. We had some nice discussion on the way, pre-show and in between sets. We talked about his buddies, his girlfriend and his college choices. The bands rocked. The weather was perfect. Just an all around wonderful evening.
Wednesday, July 20, 2016
This was a new exchange:
"Why were you so late coming home from work?"
"A lady came in with a big order at the end of my shift. And then I hit two Poke stops on the way home."
"Did you catch anything?" ....
And so it goes with the new craze....
Sunday, July 17, 2016
I got up early to run. I wanted to make sure I was done before Coco got up (no problem there) and allow enough time to get him ready for his job training. Yes, Coco will have a part time job soon. Something to get him out of the house a few days a week. Yay!. It took my 90 mins and stretched my patience but I got him there on time.
It was a 3 hour battle of wills when we got back though. He thought he could wear me down. Not a chance. I got him fed. He did his post meal routine. Then he helped me take the bottles and cans to the redemption center. I was close to getting him out on the kayak. Very close. But no cigar.
This afternoon won't be much different. Let's see how it goes.
Tuesday, July 12, 2016
Pokemon Go is bringing out some positive qualities in my kids. They are working together. They are hanging out together. They are riding their bikes. I think they had to wipe the dust off of them. Caz rigged his with my workout armband cellphone case. He can keep both hands on the bars and still see his phone. The three Chin boys are making a great team. Tonight, Caz drove them all over Duxbury hunting Pokemon. They were at it for four hours. The got home at 11 pm. Late, I know. But it was all for a good cause. It was a nice treat for them. It is nice for Demi and me, too. We have the house all to ourselves with peace and quiet.
Saturday, July 9, 2016
Saturday, July 2, 2016
This year having T-Beau has been very fortunate for us. Coco was in one of his funks. We were way off course. Today with T-Beau has turned things around. Coco is a different person. He is smiling. He is active. He is engaging. Such a huge step in the right direction. T-Beau is more than welcome to stay as long as he wants.
Wednesday, May 18, 2016
I took him out to eat at Mother Anna's in Pembroke. I figured he would love the pasta. He had fettuccine Alfredo on the brain. He surprised me with an audible. He chose the chicken cordon blue special. He loved it. He then requested to Dairy Twist after. So I obliged. He promptly fell asleep upon returning home. That is a good night, right?
Tuesday, May 17, 2016
Monday, May 16, 2016
Coco got up and into Hasbro like a champ. We left in plenty of time. It was a good thing because Monday AM traffic was thick. It is just gearing up for that Memorial Day milestone. The unnoffical start of summer means more and more people, so increased traffic. Coco was awake and dressed without a hiccup. We got into the morning check-in interview. Even though the report was not all roses, Coco didn't let that throw him. No, he wasn't happy to get the feedback, but he knew it was coming. And he dealt with it.
The afternoon was so, so. He fell back into his hermit routine, once the homework and electronic time was done. I couldn't get him engaged much. Dinner was quiet. I did get to read to him a bit, but not for too long. It wasn't terrible. So I will count is as a win. #wintoday
Saturday, May 14, 2016
That is not be negative. It is just sharing a fear. We hope for the best. Coco has shown that he has made progress. We just need to continue it. His treatment doesn't stop when he leaves the hospital. At some point, we are going to have to practice without a net.
Tuesday, May 10, 2016
It was changeover day too. Demi came to take over for the rest of the week. We met at the hospital. We also had a joint meeting with the doctors. First it was just the two of us, Demi and me. We talked to two of Coco's doctors, but one was a fill in. I led off with my concern about the dominance of electronics in Coco's life. The fill in actually offered some good approaches to dealing with it. When Coco was brought in, the meeting started well. He gave his thoughts on the one thing that made his parents optimistic and the one thing that concerned his parents the most. He nailed the positive. He was not entirely wrong about our leading area of concern but when he found out what it actually was, the meeting got tense. I could see him getting upset. I worried that we might lose him. He started shutting down. But he got through it. We got through it.
We then headed to my cousin's beach house in Narragansett. She was offering to let us stay there. It was such a generous offer. So much so that while we had concerns about it's proximity to the hospital, we almost felt like we couldn't turn it down. She made it so easy on us though. She showed us around. But she also understood that it might not work for us. Family can really be terrific like that. Coco loved the place. It was so much brighter and cheerier than the hotel. The hotel was not bad, but it is just not homey. Demi is going to check out of the hotel tomorrow and give the beach house a shot. Cross your fingers.
Monday, May 9, 2016
Coco got up when asked. We got out the door and into the car on time. I successfully found my way to the right building (with only a minor detour). I got him signed in and dropped off. What was most important was pick up. Coco was happy. He had a big smile. He just started talking about his day. He wanted to share. It was awesome. It was such a difference from the past few weeks. It was enouraging. I see that glimmer of hope that things might finally be trending up.
Sunday, May 8, 2016
Wednesday, May 4, 2016
This program is both a good and bad thing. It's good that our son needs this help. We need to figure out the logistics on the fly. Demi is now driving him to Warwick, RI. I am booking a hotel room for the next two days, while she drive. We don't know the area. But we need a place closer to the hospital. We can't get him into DHS from home before 11 am now. How can we expect to get him to Providence by 7:30 am? We will figure it out. We have to.
This is scary. It feels like our last chance. Our last hope. Time to have faith. Faith in our son. Faith in each other. Faith in our family.
Monday, April 25, 2016
Thursday, April 21, 2016
Friday, April 15, 2016
Wednesday, April 13, 2016
He had a banner day today too. He earned all his points for his Varsity letter in his first meet. He threw the javelin for the first time after a full preseason of practice. He placed third. He lost a photo finish in the 100 m dash for second. And he led the 4x100 m relay to a first place finish. He trained hard for this. The results are great but he set goals and met them. That is the important piece.
Sunday, April 3, 2016
It was a good session with College Bound. It started a little rough. Caz got lost on the way to the appointment, so he was late. But it was very informative. Caz was very interactive. Caz gave his honest assessment of what he is looking for. We both think we could use the help.
Friday, April 1, 2016
Caz and I had a good guys night to ourselves. He came into the living room all on his own to hang out. He had been staking out his territory in the den recently. We ended up watching a couple episodes of Supergirl together. He then caught up on The Blacklist while I cooked dinner. We were all set to watch a new episode of Blacklist, only to find out it was a rerun. One more week until a new one. So he went up to my room to catchup on Supernatural. When I went up to bed, he was out cold. It took a while to get him up and into his own room. I can't just scoop him up and carry him anymore. It did bring me back to when he was little. It was nice spending a night, 1 on 1, with him. A very nice positive to a less than ideal situation.
Thursday, March 31, 2016
The whole thing went off without a hitch. Coco reached his goal of counting down from 100 to 1 during the knock out process.....sort of...."100, 99, 98, 83.......1.......2...77" and out! He was under the knife for about 40 mins. He was actually awake a lot earlier than I expected. He was charming all the nurses. He was really quite the one boy show. He original rap needed some work but he was the most polite I think I have ever seen him. The nurses kept coming over to see him, more than the occasional check in. He got the royal treatment, water, Popsicles, you name it. They got him up to his room early. We could finally relax and take a breath. The worst was over. And the worst really wasn't that bad.
Wednesday, March 30, 2016
To be honest, I was skeptical. But hey, if it works, great. So be it. I kept my mouth shut and supported Demi in her efforts. Coco, on the other hand, showed no restraint in his skepticism. He outright said it was all "voodoo" or "hocum". He waved his magic wand and chuckled. He spent the night debunking the whole process, first to me, then to Caz. Of course, he doesn't realize that he will be avoiding the items that didn't pass the test for him......
Tuesday, March 29, 2016
The breaking point is really that there is no end in sight. Nothing seems to be working. Demi and I have differing views on that. I feel a lot of it is in his head. And what I mean by that is that he needs to want to get better. He hasn't made that decision in his head yet. Demi is more despondent. She things medical science is failing him. It is to a degree. Either way, we still work together. We have to. We want to. And we will make it. One way or another. I think she appreciated that I just listened. I didn't try to fix anything. I just let her vent. It turns out, that is all she really needed.
Friday, March 18, 2016
Caz came home giddy. He was smiling. He wanted to talk to me. He wanted to tell me all about it. He told me how she beat him in Mario Kart and accused him of losing on purpose. He told me how they played doubles air hockey. He told me how he won a boat load of tokens. I asked him what he spent them on. He told me he turned them in for a big, teddy bear. Funny, he didn't come home with a big, pink teddy bear. I wonder where it is....????
Tuesday, March 15, 2016
Looks like Dad still had the magic touch. It does feel good to know that my 17 year old son wants his Dad to read to him. It feels even better when he falls asleep while you are doing it.....it's a bit like going back in time, to when he was a toddler.
Tuesday, March 8, 2016
Sunday, March 6, 2016
The restaurant is right there. The food is great. There are new takes on some standby fare. There is also a budding "shopping village" just a quick walk away. We acquired some great selections of cheese, crackers, and accoutrements. We got a nice bottle of wine. I think Demi was able to unplug and get away from the chaos. Mission accomplished.
Friday, March 4, 2016
Tuesday, March 1, 2016
"Right before? Like that day?"
"No, Dad. Two weekends before."
"Why? Do you have a date?" I asked kiddingly.
My jaw hit the floor. I was a bit stunned. I wasn't expecting that information. I tentatively pressed for details. I had to tread carefully. I didn't want to spook the prey. I was able to get the salient points. My boy would be going to his first Prom. Wow!
Saturday, February 27, 2016
I didn't give him a hard time when he started up with the electronics right away. He had earned it. His posse came over at noon. From noon-6 pm, they were outside running around. It was a great day. They played all kinds of sports. They played Manhunt. They had their air soft war. They wrestled. It was great to see him with his friends.
Happy Birthday Little Man. Better days like these are ahead. Believe.
Friday, February 26, 2016
Coco patiently tried on 3 different masks. He got personally fitted for each one. He got the lowdown on the pros and cons of each. He chose which one to start with. He watched TV while getting hooked up. He was joking. He appeared very relaxed. I hope this helps him feel better. I hope he can finally sleep peacefully.
Tuesday, February 16, 2016
The campus tour was very helpful as well. It was led by an energetic senior. We got to see small (25-30 students), medium (approximately 70 students) and large (200 students max). They showed us the various types of laboratories, mechanical, chemical, computer, engineering, etc. We got to see the dorms, cafeterias, and sports complex. Caz was taken with it all. The campus is self contained. It is in Worcester, but the campus is set apart on it's own to a degree. He seems excited. I will just have to keep my fingers crossed.
Thursday, February 11, 2016
Monday, February 8, 2016
Saturday, February 6, 2016
Caz and I spent some more time on the college search. We had to pick 4 colleges to which to send his test results. He ended up with WPI, UNH, Brandeis, and Tufts. So now he's thinking. He is getting letters everyday from colleges & universities. We set up his first college visit for later this month. These are exciting times.
And oh, by the way, his league track meet was reschedule for this night. Test all AM. Run all night. His relay team took second in the 4x200m. Well done, Caz.
Tuesday, February 2, 2016
Monday, February 1, 2016
After some mishandling of information by technicians and administrators, we finally got a call to come see the doctor regarding the results of Coco's sleep study. It was no shock to me when he was diagnosed with sleep apnea. His genes were never in his favor. He is a restless sleeper. He always has bags under his eyes. He snore unmercifully. It's no wonder he can't get out of bed in the AM. It's way beyond hormones and being a teenager. I am sure it is the primary factor in many of his ailments. Now we start down a path to recovery. I hope....
Friday, January 15, 2016
It went just fine. We only stopped once, which is a minor miracle. We made good time. The boys played Trivia Crack with Demi. It was fun to listen in. It was a total Griswold drive in the new family truckster.
Friday, January 8, 2016
Fast forward to 4 pm today. The meet starts at 4:30...at the Reggie...in Roxbury. Text - "When you come, can you bring my compression shorts. I can't run without them." Next Text - "I am definitely running". Needless to say Demi had to pause and take a breathe. I started running calculations in my head about how to make the meet. Demi explained to Caz that he was SOL. I ended up at home having dinner with Demi and Coco. He knew the story. He needs to prepare better. He needs to communicate better. But it's all a part of growing pains. He did run. And he ran well.
Saturday, January 2, 2016
Demi is off to bring our last family member home. She's going to the NY ferry to meet her sister and get Gizmo. We all missed our little pup. She is going to be over stimulated with all the attention and affection. And we will love every minute of it.